How Weight Loss May Help You Feel Sexier and More Confident

Recently on Huffington Post a discussion arose in regards to whether or not fat is sexy. Does Western culture put weight first before real sex appeal? A study by Duke University shows that women with weight issues tend to stray from sex because of their lack of self confidence and the bad feelings that they harbor for their bodies. This lack of sex-confidence has created a phenomena within the female Western culture, a reflection of their innermost workings and lack of feelings in regards to themselves.

The answers to these common occurrences in American women's lives comes from some unthought of places, including early childhood sexual abuse, a strong libido that has been suppressed in a marriage creating feelings of guilt and dysfunction, self-hate and body loathing, and even lack of desire for ones partner. 

 

These deep seeded feelings have been known to bring up a series of hidden emotions that never become resolved, instead women tend to stuff their feelings with a safe alternative 'food'. This creates a vicious cycle of abuse on all levels. She eats to stuff her feelings deep down inside to avoid her truth and whomever the feelings are aimed at, in return the weight accumulates, the feelings grow and the relationship slowly dies.

5 steps explaining how weight loss may help you feel sexier and more confident:

1. Boosts Self-Esteem

Losing weight often leads to feeling better about your body image. As you see progress, your confidence naturally increases, which can positively impact how you see yourself sexually.

2. Increases Energy Levels

Weight loss is usually accompanied by improved fitness and stamina, which can lead to more energy and enthusiasm—both in daily life and the bedroom.

3. Improves Mood and Mental Health

Exercise and healthier habits release endorphins, reduce stress, and help combat anxiety or depression, all of which play a big role in feeling sexy and confident.

4. Enhances Body Awareness

As you engage in healthier habits, you become more in tune with your body—learning what makes you feel good, both physically and emotionally.

5. Encourages Positive Feedback

Friends, partners, or even your own reflection may offer encouragement or compliments, reinforcing your self-worth and enhancing your sexual self-image.

Where's the answer?

Many of these issues are ones that need assistance in getting through, i.e. therapist, counselor, someone trustworthy that will not violate the trust bestowed. Generally therapists and counselors are the best for this, as they are schooled in the manners in helping another work through these sensitive subjects and they are professionally trustworthy, therefore you do not have to worry about your sister telling your husband your true feelings etc. The professionals are separate from your lives and are able to provide invaluable answers to your lives worst woes. So if this is you:

"Obesity is associated with lack of enjoyment of sexual activity, lack of sexual desire, difficulties with sexual performance, and avoidance of sexual encounters. Sexual quality of life is most impaired for women."

If this is you, then I hope that you are able to find your truth and become empowered as a woman without the hang-ups of yesterday. Because life is short, do it today!

For more information on weight loss and sex visit: Huffington Post
To find a counselor or therapist in your area visit: PsychologyToday.com

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by Triya Redberg (Author)

Firm Those Thighs!

Thighs, they can be hidden. However when you feel good about them it is a pleasure to show them off. Keep in mind that diet and excercise play a huge part in the overall success of your body's shape and muscle tone, however we are just talking about thighs here nothing else.







To help tone up for summer I will be writiing a few blogs that focus on certain bathing suit worthy areas of the body. Just a thought on quick fixes such as cosmetic surgery or even liposuction, these are great concepts but are not a permanent fix. Sooner or later you will have to learn to take care of those sexy inner and outer thighs.

Part 1: Firmin' Up Your Sexy Thighs

Question: Where exactly are your thighs?
Answer: Wikipedia states that "In humans the thigh is the area between the pelvis and the knee." This means the front, inside, outside and the back side of the leg.

Photo courtesy of: Fine Cosmetic Surgery

Question: Why do thighs get fat?

Answer: Scientific America states that  the following criteria work to determine what your thighs will look like:

• Hormones
• Women store fat differently than women
• Cellulite appears as body fat is gained
• Age
• Exercise
• Food choices

Video: Best Thigh Thinning Exercises

Do you know your breaking point?

Your mentality forms who you are, including:

What you eat.

How you react to situations.

How you discipline yourself.

And your ability to stick to it.

Although it may hard to see right away, but all of the above has a direct impact on how and if you loose weight and head in the right direction of long term healthy eating habits.  Ask yourself, really go within and find your answers to these pertinent questions.  "Action is the foundational key to all success. -Pablo Picasso-"

1st Photo: Bansky, Burgers and Bells Bristol, England
2nd Photo: Flickr By Rei San
3rd Photo: Dancer 
4th Photo: Constantina Tomescu crossing the finish line of Women's Marathon.

Use Your Social Network to Loose Weight

There are so many devices available to you today to stay connected, why not use them to help you succeed? Who would have thought that your social network could help you loose weight. Your social network may consist of your cell phone, including texting, app's and access to Twitter, Facebook, and the internet.

Check out these ideas to increase your weight loss:

1. Studies have shown that when individuals on a weight loss plan text their daily weight and food intake to friends or a weight loss sponsor that they become accountable for their food intake. Acknowledging what you are taking in can help you become conscious of your food patterns. Do you eat when you are hungry or when you are tired and upset?
2. Start a weight loss challenge with your friends, family or even at work. Research shows that working or competing with others will help to fire up the motivation to loose those extra pounds.
3. Eat with others when possible. Studies show that when you eat with others, especially in a pleasant atmosphere people tend to eat less.
4. Online wight loss communities, these unique and powerful communities consist of forums to chat with others in the same boat, or gain momentum by chatting with other weight loss individuals who have already succeeded in their weight loss goals. Or for around the clock support check out Sparkpeople.com
5. Weight loss groups can also be a great source of information, support and motivation. Check out WeightWatchers.com, well known Tops Club, join a Meetup Group for weight loss, and Overeaters Anonymous.

Create a supportive and healthy environment in your life today. Create what you need to live a healthy life for yourself and thrive. Today is the day!